Petty man: endure or leave? My husband is a petty person – what to do

Women very often complain about their men – they scatter their socks, do not wash the dishes, do not lift the toilet lid and everything in the same spirit. And men, in response, believe that they are unfairly “fucked by the brain." In some cases, men are right and ladies express dissatisfaction over trifles that you can turn a blind eye to. But sometimes the indignation is not groundless and the spouse really has such shortcomings that it is difficult to close your eyes One of these shortcomings is pettiness.

Most girls are sure that one of the main features of a real man is generosity. He should not show stinginess especially towards the girl he loves. If a guy counts every penny, choosing a bouquet for a date that will cost him a smaller amount of money, this is the first sign that you need to carefully consider whether you are ready to start a relationship with such a person.

Of course, perhaps he just has temporary difficulties with money, so he looks at you with horror when you order not just tea, but tea with dessert in a cafe.

Why a petty man is bad

Many girls may not even think that the problem of petty people lies not in desserts and not in bouquets. Paying increased attention to insignificant things, a man begins to lose sight of something more serious and significant.

How to recognize a petty man

To distinguish men with temporary financial difficulties from petty representatives of the strong half of humanity, there are a number of signs.

• If you have ever casually used an offensive word towards him, he will always remember this. He will not only constantly remind you of this, he will even repeat your intonation. They have such a good memory.
• A petty person is always irritable when asked for money. Especially if you are going to buy some kind of trinket. Many men do not perceive women's things as something serious, so they do not want to spend the money earned with sweat and blood on something unknown to him.
• Taxi? Why spend more when you can get there by public transport. Of course, in a sense, this is correct. But even if you run to the bus stop in high heels, because the last bus is about to leave, you can't even count on it to take pity on you and agree to call a taxi.
• Petty people tend to be very demanding. And this exactingness is manifested in them not in relation to themselves, but in relation to other people. The person knows exactly what and how you should do. As soon as you break this chain by doing something wrong, he will immediately tell you everything in a rather rude way.
• You can’t even dream of grand gestures. Sprinkling a room with rose petals is something out of the ordinary. After all, these petals will wither, then they should also be removed. Why spend money on something that ends up in the trash. It is better to buy a new kettle, which will certainly come in handy on the farm.
• A petty person will not let you forget about your duty. Let's assume that you still have a separate budget. Once you were walking with him and it turned out that you forgot your wallet at home and you don’t even have money for a cup of tea. Having borrowed 100 rubles from him, be sure that he will constantly remind you of the debt until you return it. If the amount is large, such behavior of a person is quite understandable. However, it will even remind you of the once borrowed ruble.
• He will never go to see a paid doctor. He will stand in line for hours, cursing everyone who is in it, but he will not go to a paid specialist. Even if he has no financial problems, he is convinced that paying for something that you can get absolutely free is stupid.

To live with such a man or not

Pettiness is not a disease or a sentence. Each of us has certain disadvantages and advantages. Despite the fact that a person pays attention to the little things, he can have a lot of positive qualities.

But before deciding to create a family with such a man, you need to be prepared for all the nuances of his character and how these nuances will be reflected in your life together.