When we start a family Page 1 of 0 – %%primary_category%% – Love
When we start a family, we are happy and carefree. The world around us shines with iridescent colors, we are surrounded only by positive. Love seems to be long and cloudless. However, the honeymoon flies by in no time. Everyday life comes to the family, and with it the first misunderstandings and problems appear.
By the way, I have met wise married women in whom this wisdom is inherent in nature. Usually, newlyweds are unfamiliar with the psychology of relationships, and so far there is not enough experience. We all strive to protect our personal lives from someone else’s interference. We prefer to leave rubbish at home, but sometimes the problems that arise are serious and deep. And they are so serious that in order to save relations with a loved one, the presence of a third person is simply necessary.
There is a solution
By the way, the "savior" for many is a professional family therapist. A good specialist will help you deal with this complex psychology of family relationships. He will not give advice, and find out who is right. He will create such conditions at a meeting in which you yourself will analyze what is happening, draw conclusions and make decisions. Believe me, it is very important to come to a mutual understanding when there are two more of you in the family. As a result, the appearance of a baby will not be able to solve the existing problems, but only exacerbate them.
For example, for a woman, knitted baby hats, tiny rompers and booties, the needy baby is the center of the universe. Men, for the most part, withdraw from it. And this, by the way, does not contribute to the harmonization of relations. You will choose a pattern, pick up baby threads, count loops, knit ornaments and build huge pompoms on the top of your head. You will be satisfied to try on a hat on your own head, and wait for delight from your beloved husband. He will most likely throw "nice!" and continue to watch the news on television.
Therefore, do not let yourself be overwhelmed by resentment, be wiser. After all, a woman, first of all, was considered the guardian of the family hearth. A woman will have to decide how to make a man think about himself, about his family, about the future. And each wife will decide it in her own way, no matter what advice she is given.
Outcome
Summing up, we note the main, but long-known truths. First of all, love and respect yourself, allow yourself to be happy. Men appreciate self-sufficient women. Be an interesting conversationalist, and also sincerely take an interest in the affairs of your husband. By the way, try to look at home as well as at a party with friends where you met.
By the way, meanwhile, nothing complicated, but, however, following these simple rules will help make your family relationships deep, beautiful and happy.