Women’s manipulations and protection from them. Female manipulation: how to recognize and not succumb

If you think that your woman does not apply any manipulations towards you, then she is very cunning and knows how to do it in such a way that you do not have any questions. It so happened that men constantly make any decisions. Many of them do not consult with their chosen one in this matter. Therefore, girls have learned to quietly “correct" all your decisions. How to recognize when you are being manipulated and how to protect yourself from it.

Types of manipulations

"You do not love me"

How often do you hear this expression from your girlfriend/wife? Yes, yes, this is exactly the most common female trick. You do not want to indulge her whims, and in response you hear that you do not love her? You should not immediately rush to prove the opposite to her, giving what she requires at the moment.

Make a list of the things you have done for her throughout your relationship. Only things that show that you love and care for her. “I bought ice cream” doesn't count.

Or you can also ask her for something that will prove her love for you.

A complaint

“Eh, but the handbag does not fit these shoes at all. What to do. What are you saying? Take another bag? She doesn't fit. Suddenly they think that your girlfriend does not have a sense of style. After such expressions, a very plaintive sigh follows, eyes like a cat from the cartoon “Shrek” and your phrase that you are ready to buy her a new matching handbag. Of course, you are a hero, you need to save your unfortunate girlfriend from the shame of inappropriate shoes.

If you are not a burden to satisfy her desires, why not do it. And if you simply do not know what to do in such a situation, then there is only one answer – to listen, regret and advise how to be in this situation.

resentment

If the girl has already taken the position of the victim and is offended by you, then no matter how you try to prove to her that you are not guilty in this situation, it will not work out for you. With the help of resentment, the girl seeks your attention.

Many guys immediately run to the flower shop to resolve the conflict. But really, you just need to talk to her. Yes, to your question “what happened?” you may run into silence. Tell her in a firm voice that if she stays silent, the problem will not go away.

Blackmail

“If you don’t buy me a new phone, then I will think that you feel sorry for me for the money”, “if you go for a long walk with friends, I will think that you have another woman and will also get myself a lover” and other phrases in a similar spirit and are called blackmail.

Explain to her that she will not be able to put you on a chain. Otherwise, she will blackmail more and more.

"You are a real man"

If this phrase often sounds in your house, then this means that you are being manipulated and moreover in the most brazen way. You do not need to indulge all her whims to prove to her that you are a real man. Ask her that if she does not consider you as such, then what she has been doing with you throughout all these years. And remember that you don't have to prove anything to anyone. If you do not match her ideal, which she drew in her head, this is definitely not your problem.

How to protect yourself from manipulation

Active protection

• Ask her questions that will baffle her (as in the "real man" section). Don't be afraid to ask what exactly she wants from you, why you should do it.
• Show her that you will not fulfill all her whims and wishes. If this does not suit her, she can look for a more suitable partner for herself.
• If you don't feel like doing something, don't be afraid to say no. This is not about situations where she really needs your help. As for manipulation.

Passive Defense

• Change the topic of conversation. Show that you are unaffected by her manipulations. You have a more interesting topic to discuss.
• Raise your head, look straight into your eyes. Your whole appearance should radiate complete self-confidence.
• You can just ignore it. Listen to her, do not interrupt, let her speak and ignore her, making it clear that her “universal problems” are complete nonsense for you.

The main thing is to be able to recognize situations in which you are being manipulated. Once you learn this, you can easily bypass them.