Breakup habits: what are they?

A happy relationship is not something that appears just like that, it is a product of long and high-quality work both on oneself personally and, directly, on relationships in general. We have already talked about what habits can make a couple happy, and now let’s talk about the exact opposite, namely those habits that slowly but surely lead to parting.

What are the relationship habits that lead to breakups?

1. THE HABIT OF EXPECTING A PARTNER TO IMPROVE YOUR MOOD AND YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. Of course, with the advent of a loved one, life changes quite significantly. But one should not think that love is a panacea for absolutely any life failures. When it comes to emotional support in a difficult and difficult moment, this is considered a natural and really important need in a relationship. At the same time, keep in mind that the willingness to “sit on the neck," even if not in a financial sense, is not the best pattern for building a happy relationship.
2. THE HABIT OF FOLLOWING YOUR PARTNER’S CONTRIBUTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIPS. It is very important to understand that a relationship is not a competition or a bank deposit. Stop analyzing your and other people’s contributions to the relationship, because in the end it will turn into a presentation of accounts and destroy any feelings. No need to keep score – this is not a game. Anyway, as a rule, both participants in the relationship invest equally, and if there is a difference and it is noticeable to the naked eye, then think about whether you need such a partner in principle?
3. THE HABIT TO THINK OF THE PARTNER AS ABOUT YOUR SECOND HALF (IN THE DIRECT SENSE OF THE WORD). Ownership has never been good. Your partner is a person who completes and enriches your life, but he is not your application. Therefore, you should not spend time with your loved one 24/7. Firstly, in this way, you will annoy each other extremely quickly, and secondly, routine quarrels will become more frequent, which, again, definitely do not strengthen relations in any way. It is important to understand that your loved one is also a person with their own interests, friends, and the need to be alone sometimes.
4. THE HABIT TO MAKE CATEGORICAL STATEMENTS WITHOUT SPARE THE FEELING OF THE PARTNER. We strongly advise you to think ten times before making categorical and harsh statements. Instead of saying “what you did hurt me” or “don’t say that, I don’t like it”, do you start screaming and talking about divorce? Keep in mind that such negativity will accumulate and sooner or later may lead to separation.
5. THE HABIT OF ROLLING SCANDALS FOR PASSION IN RELATIONSHIPS. Often, both a woman and a man may lack passion and freshness in a relationship. And instead of organizing pleasant surprises, there may be a habit of throwing up a scandal: to refresh emotions and cheer up. But this approach is utopian. Firstly, this leads to instability, and secondly, it deprives a sense of stability and balance in a couple. You begin to burn out, experience moral fatigue from each other and begin to move away. So this way to revive a relationship has a very dubious side effect.
6. THE HABIT OF WAITING FOR YOUR PARTNER TO GUESS ABOUT YOUR DESIRES. Try talking about your desires in words through your mouth: and you will see how simple everything is. The inability to ask and the expectation that your partner should guess everything himself leads to passive internal aggression, to numerous discords and quarrels.
7. THE HABIT TO IDEALIZE YOUR PARTNER. And also, expect supernatural things from him, mind reading. Remember that your loved one is also a person, he can get tired, he has the right to negative emotions, in general, he has exactly the same life as you. But he wants to make you happy just as much as you want him, so many things should be taken easier.