The guy threw: what to do?

Breakups are always incredibly difficult. The whole world of two people is collapsing – and it is really extremely painful. And it is even more painful for a girl if a man abandoned her: especially when she did not expect such an outcome at all. The reasons for this can be very different: someone finds a new passion, someone gets tired of relationships in general, someone breaks up for objective reasons, like traveling to different countries. In any case, experiencing these emotions is very important in order to successfully return to a full, happy life later.

What to do if the guy left?

Many girls immediately try to return the man. It is difficult to say how justified this is: in some cases it is completely, sometimes, on the contrary, you need to get out of the situation with dignity and leave beautifully. The main thing is not to humiliate yourself in front of a man, do not put him at the forefront, do not forget that you are also a person and you have self-esteem.

1. Change the environment. It is best to go somewhere at least for a day in such a difficult time: it really helps to distract yourself, and also not to hear a lot of questions that hurt your nerves. Different terrain, airports, trains, people, food can have a great impact on the state of mind. You can express your pain to a random travel companion, and this often works as well as a session with an intelligent psychotherapist. If the trip cannot be realized, then come up with additional classes for yourself – foreign language courses, dancing or a gym.
2. Pay for 3 days. Often, some psychologists advise immediately to be distracted, to find a billion new things to do, new acquaintances. Unfortunately, you do not neutralize stress in this way: it will simply subside and flare up again with renewed vigor later, moreover, at the most inopportune time. It is necessary to throw out all negative emotions with the help of tears. It is best to do this no more than 3 days. If you want to remain calm and hide your pain, then depression can only escalate. And if you notice symptoms of depression in yourself, be sure to consult a specialist.
3. Avoid meeting with your ex-lover. Out of sight, out of heart, that should be your motto. At least for a while, avoid places where your ex-boyfriend often likes to relax. This way you’ll have more time to recover from the breakup and won’t spill the beans. Ideally, it would be right to add his number to the black list, unsubscribe on all social networks for at least a month. During this month, you will at least slightly recover from the breakup.
4. Do not discuss personal life online. The personal must remain personal. Public insult or details of personal life will not help to cope with emotions. Moreover, this way you will make everyone feel sorry for you and show yourself not in the best light. Pity is humiliating, and thus, your personal life will become an occasion for gossip: think for yourself if you need this.
5. Don’t be alone. During a difficult breakup, support is really extremely important. After a breakup, girls often make the most common mistake – they lock themselves in their room and forget about entertainment. Warn your friends that you are not having the best of times right now and that you may not be the most positive person. To improve your emotional state, you should not be alone, but invite a friend to visit or go somewhere with her.
6. Get yourself in order. It has been proven that the appearance and well-groomedness of a woman have a very noticeable effect on her condition and mood. Do not skip manicure sessions, go to the beautician, go to the gym, try anti-stress massage. And yet, a beautiful appearance will help you meet a new lover.
7. Reflect on your mistakes in these relationships. It is important, at the same time, not to blame yourself for the breakup and not to find a million shortcomings in yourself.