How to survive a breakup?

In one famous song, it was sung that parting is a small death. It is difficult to disagree with this thesis: after all, as a rule, romantic relationships, or even the relationship of spouses, occupy a significant part of life. And when, for one reason or another, relationships come to a standstill, this can become a real disaster: in some cases, you need to, literally, brick by brick, rebuild your life anew. How to survive a breakup and how to minimize this colossal stress?

1. ALLOW YOURSELF TO SUFFER. Yes exactly. The advice to “go to work", “distract” and “forget about this idiot” will not help you now – any relationship needs to be mourned. We are convinced that the breakup should be fully mourned, reflected, assessed, what exactly was wrong and what put a bullet in the relationship. If you do not allow yourself to get hurt and hide negative emotions under feigned fun, later this accumulated stress will greatly interfere in other relationships and professional help may be needed.
2. END THE RELATIONSHIP. You should not have any “anchors” in these relationships, preferably, you should not depend on your ex-partner in any way. A difficult farewell took place, the dots on the i’s were placed, you went to different apartments – and yet you are still connected by many threads, reminiscent of the previous relationship and permanently drive into melancholy.Delete joint photos, preferably – give gifts, abstract.
3. PUT IT ON THE BLACKLIST. Even if you are forced to communicate with a former lover, for example, at work, or about joint children. try for some time to completely cut off all contact with him. Psychologists say that it takes at least a month to make it much easier for everyone to contact.
4. ASK FOR HELP. Not necessarily a professional psychologist – although it would be very useful to turn to one, as a rule, it is professional psychologists and psychotherapists who help to qualitatively reflect on past relationships. Arrange a manicure evening with your friends, order pizza, watch a couple of funny films, go to karaoke together. Go shopping, follow the events in your city, visit movie premieres, theaters. It is important that you keep yourself busy after the mourning stage of the relationship and that you simply do not have time to return to these emotions.
5. BE IRRESISTIBLE. In fact, it really helps a lot. In a joke that the worse things are for a girl, the better she should look, as usual, is only part of the joke. Still, it’s more pleasant to be sad with impeccable styling, fashionable makeup and new shoes. Go to a make-up master class, sign up for the gym. All beauty treatments significantly improve your mood, while significantly increasing your chances of meeting the new man of your heart.
6. FIND SOURCES OF JOY. You must find the activity that will again return you to a resourceful mood, roughly speaking, something that will please you and bring maximum pleasant emotions. Bake a cake according to a new recipe, learn to weave braids, rearrange the furniture in the room – pleasant emotions can be found even in small things.
7. REVIEW PLANS AND OBJECTIVES. This is the stage when it is time to think not about the past and not even about the present, but about the future – yours, independent, already without the former. When there are two of us, we make joint plans, choose common guidelines and make numerous compromises. Now think carefully about what you would like: maybe you want to change jobs, learn a new profession, move to another city or even another country. Now your hands are completely untied: and you can do what you see fit.
8. ENJOY FREEDOM. Start flirting with men, enjoy compliments, spend more time with friends: at this stage, you will appreciate the taste of your freedom.